Sex Therapy for Dating
Things I hear my clients say…..
"I keep getting rejected and I don't know what I'm doing wrong"
"I feel like everyone else is following a set of rules that I never got to read"
"I don't know how to read signals or take hints"
"I never got much practice with dating and now I'm afraid it's too late to learn"
*These are generalized statements and not direct quotes from any clients.
Dating in the modern world is hard. We are becoming increasingly isolated from one another at the same time as we are expected to be more connected than our parents ever dreamed.
Social media has changed the way we think about each other, evaluate new partners and make new connections.
Dating apps have completely changed the culture of how we meet in the first place and they warp the process of dating to feed their capitalistic need for profit and growth.
On top of all of this, Men are simply expected to act differently, better even, than the men that have come before them. The #metoo movement, however important, has placed a heavy burden on men of all ages to change the way they flirt, date and hook up, without much if any guidance on exactly how to change or what it might look like.
Sex Therapy can teach you how to embody healthy masculinity and date with consideration to principles of consent, feminism, and emotional attunement in a way that is respectful, confident and effective. From walking up to a stranger in a bar, to navigating the complex word of online dating, to communicating effectively before, during and after sex, therapy can give you the tools to protect yourself and your partners from common mistakes and help you find more and healthier romantic and sexual connections.
If you're ready to get started, I invite you to book a free consultation with me today
Frequently asked questions.
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For some people, dating can feel daunting because they have had limited experience - for these folks, therapy can help answer questions, set expectations and avoid common pitfalls. For others, dating can be discouraging because of past mishaps - for these folks, therapy can help you understand what went wrong so that you can approach it differently the next time.
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The truth is that dating is hard for just about everyone - sometimes especially the ones who make it look easy. Still, dating culture has changed a lot in recent years, with the increased reliance on dating apps, shifting attitudes towards gender (in particular, masculinity), higher expectations around appearance or compatibility…the pressure has never been higher! An experienced therapist can help you navigate these issues with insights and guidance to help you refine your approach and find the partners you are looking for.
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Relationships in general, especially romantic and sexual ones, can be incredibly vulnerable. We often share more with intimate partners and they are much more likely to be around us when our guard is down. For this reason, people have all kinds of strategies to keep themselves protected that they may not be conscious of at all. These can include being avoidant of closeness or clinging onto it too tightly. Strategies like perfectionism, "love bombing", or secrecy can be signs that we are insecure in ourselves. Therapy can help you build your confidence so you can show up to each date from a place of secure authenticity.