Sex Therapy for Impulsive Sexual Behavior (Sex Addiction)
Things I hear my clients say…..
"Sex addiction is taking over my life and I can't seem to stop it."
"I'm doing things that are unethical or even illegal and I want to stop."
"I feel so much shame, but that only leads to more of the behavior - it's a vicious cycle."
*These are generalized statements and not direct quotes from any clients.
Sex addiction can be all-consuming to the folks suffering from it. It can cause us to engage in behaviors that are out of alignment with our values and may even cause harm to ourselves and others.
The results of these behaviors can be devastating to one's sense of self, relationships, and career, often isolating us, punishing us and shaming us along the way.
As many as 20 million adults in the US meet criteria for what we commonly refer to as "sex addiction". These individuals are bombarded with conflicting messages about what sex addiction is, what it says about them, and how to address and treat it. But even if you managed to navigate all of these confusing messages, it's equally difficult to find a consensus on what constitutes healthy sexuality.
One source of confusion is that sex addiction is technically not recognized as a mental health disorder in the DSM. This means that the folks referring to it are often misinformed or pushing agendas to control and often restrict your sexuality. This means that "sex addicts" must navigate the difficult task of defining for themselves what healthy sexuality looks like, get clear on their values and then acquire the tools and knowledge to adhere to those values in the future.
Sex therapy is here to help. By applying an alternate framework to the "addiction" model, evidence-based sex therapy can help you get control back over your sexual behavior so that you can make the kind of progress in life and love that you've been wanting.
If you're ready to get started, I invite you to book a free consultation with me today
Frequently asked questions.
-
In short, no - there is not enough scientific evidence to show that sex is actually or addictive or helpful to be treated as an addiction. That said, impulsive behaviors can be habitual and destructive and sexual behaviors are no exception.
-
Absolutely not. I follow foundational principles of consent and my clients’ values around sexual expression to guide what behaviors feel healthy and appropriate for each person. In sex therapy, I will give you the tools and support to help you restore balance in your life, regardless of whether you choose to abstain.
-
Sex therapy with me is a no-shame space, period. Regardless of your thoughts, feelings, or behaviors, I believe everyone is capable of change and discernment in their behaviors and I'm a firm believer that, with practice, sex therapy can help you align your actions with your personal values.
-
Again, sex therapy with me is a no-shame space, period. I've worked with clients who have violated consent and engaged in criminal behavior. I believe everyone should have a chance to change their behaviors, even if that means learning from mistakes. Please be aware that I follow mandatory reporting guidelines for my license.